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How To Choose The Correct Size Condom
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Are you wearing the correct size condom?
Choosing the correct condom size is important. Put aside your pride as this is a matter of protection and maintaining sexual pleasure, safely and responsibly, rather than inflating your ego.
If you wear the incorrect size condom there is a high rish of it spliting or slipping off, which could result to you aquiring or sharing a sexually transmitted infection or pregnancy.
What Penis Size Am I?
The average flaccid penis, measures 3 inches in length. An erect penis size is between 5-7 inches in length.
But it is the girth which determines the condom size.
So,
What condom size am I?
To obtain an accurate condom size measurement, this needs to be done with your solider at full atention. Once erect measure the girth of your penis in centimetres.
If you measure:
12Cm or less – Choose a slim line fitting condom,
12-13cm – Choose a regular fitting condom,
13cm+ – Choose the large to X/large fitting condom.
The condom size is not a reflection on your performance, that cums with practice, so at least you can now practice with confidence in a safe and protected manner.
Sid Phillis
Add comment 1,September 10, 2008
Sex Addicts
Sex Addicts
The term sex addict is more profound than you think, it does not just state the fact that someone is addicted to sex itself, it can also show underlying signs of influences from your childhood and suppressed emotions.
Ulrika Johnson hosted a programme to set out to discover the true meaning of the word sex addict and uncovered a very surprising outcome of her own reality.
Being diagnosed as a sex addict can lead to a life of upset, misery and a long string of failed relationships. It does not just mean addict to the urges and practises of sex, it also relates to the addiction and craving of love and the want of being loved.
Choosing to allow yourself to be with the first person that shows you any attention, just to be loved and sleeping with others in a short space of meeting them to be close to another.
Sex is not a cure for any problem; it is just a quick emotional fix, which rarely lasts more than a few days before things return to their normal standard. You can not have a relationship based on just sex alone as this is how it will stay and you will still feel lost and lonely, turning to more sex to feel wanted and whole again, and so the circle continues.
These problems can usually stem from your up bringing, by watching how your parents treated each other maybe by belittling and undermining each other, treating women as objects, or even a broken hearted women going through a string of men after a divorce to find comfort.
Any little insecurity could be the root cause to being defined as a sex addict. No one wants to be alone and lonely, but until you can feel happy and secure with yourself and your own life, the choices you make will more than likely be the incorrect ones as it’s not going to be your head you are thinking with, but your heart.
You do have your own mind and this should not be bogged down with desperate desires. One task they showed Ulrika was the horse therapy, they took her into a paddock with about 5-8 horses in and asked her to choose one, as predicted she opted straight away for the first one that approached her without even looking at any other others.
This was not allowed, she then had to look at and meet each horse in turn before she made her choice. Having done this she did eventually pick the first one that she met but this time she was happy with her choice and had made her decision clearly having looked at the other horses that were available, she then spent time with this horse grooming and making a connection with it. She had made the decision and not let the choice be made for her.
A study showed that women are most happiest for the longest, not when they have been shopping, not after they have had their hair done, this lasts for only a few hours, it is when they are confident and feel in control of their own life.
One way to try and be more in control of your sex addition or craving for love is to take a year of abstinence, sounds horrifying, especially if you have used sex as a emotional weapon for many years.
There are groups available for anyone who hides behind this physicality, it would be best to talk to you GP first.
Add comment 1,January 14, 2008
Eunuchs And Castration
A Eunuch is a man that does not have functional testicles, or whose testicles and/or penis have been removed. The worshipers of Aphrodite, the Goddess of love, had an annual ceremony where a young priest was sacrificed and in the ensuing frenzy other men would cut off their penises and splatter the blood on her statue as their personal sacrificial offering.
Those surviving then joined her service as Eunuch priests.
The Eunuch priests of Cybele conducted similar rites, offering their penises on an alter and afterward adopting women’s clothing, and dedicating themselves to temple service which often included prostitution.
The Catholic Church has a law that no pope may rule who has been castrated or who’s genitals are otherwise deformed.
Cardinals at one time acted as inspectors and would walk past the pope, who sat in a special chair exposing his genitals, confirming their approval by chanting
“testiculos habet et bene pendentes”
It became common for slave traders to castrate male slaves. These were then sold throughout Middle East as guards, servants and managers.
The orient commonly used castrated men as servants, cooks, musicians, guards, executioners and torturers. The use of slaves in harems began in the 7th century and still exists in parts of Africa and Saudi Arabia.
Middle Eastern eunuchs were able to gain political power within the confines of the harem and many acquired great wealth and status.
A black Turkish eunuch, Kislar Agha, came to exercise supreme power and when he died, left a sum of30,000.000 piasters along with many other riches. He had been purchased for 30 piasters.
Other eunuchs led revolutions, deposed sultans, or were given respectable titles and very high ranks.
As late 1877 a head eunuch, Hafiz Beheram, was said to have more power than the Grand Vizer or Prime Minister. The hiring of eunuchs in the church was finally forbidden by Leo XIII in 1878, primarily to end the misuse of castrati.
Information taken from The Encyclopaedia of unusual sex practices by Brenda Love.
In 2006 front covers of newspaper told the story of 3 men that were arrested from Hayward County in Waynesville North Carolina, for performing illegal castrations.
1000’s of men from all over the world would visit the premises in want of having their testicles removed to become Eunuchs.
The house was said to have had cages hanging from the ceiling and testicles in the freezer. (I know someone who kept the horses nuts in a freezer after he was castrated, poor thing)
Master Rick (Richard Sciara, 61) the head of this operation shall we say, was charged with castration without malice and practising medicine without a licence. Master Rick lived with his partner and their slave (Michael Mendez, 60; and Danny Reeves, 49)A local worker in a hardware store said that they would come in and purchase hinges, chains and metal clips, once he even attached it to his slave and walked him out of the store.People often wanting or have become eunuchs tend to live in a hidden world of sudanames, it is virtually impossible to obtain professional surgeons to perform such an operation known to some as body-dismorphia. Once castration has been performed it is irreversible. A 20 year old called Z (Zachary Arnold)did not feel comfortable as one of the boys but knew he was not a girl. He had longed for the operation of castration; he had done his research and found a Dr Murray Kimel, one of the only trained surgeons able to perform this operation on demand.Z felt the longer he had to wait the more time he would have to suffer nd miss out, so he saved and took a flight to Philadelphia.Z was up and walk in less than an hour after the operation and hand to change his dressings every hour to reduce the risk of infection, he said he felt like he had shed a skin. A while after Z had started to get concerns from having had the operation as he has gone from fighting with his sexual urges and feelings to now having no sexual appetite, this brought concerns towards needs of other should he become involved in a relationship, now he is starting hormone therapy to replace his sex drive. Another chap who called himself The Fraj had the same operation 5 years ago about the same age as Z. His mane is Roger from Southport in Merseyside. Roger feels that he has never been a male and recognised this from the age of 8, he prefers being referred to as eunuch or 3rd gender. From this early age Roger was already obsessed with getting rid of his testicles, these urges led to acts of brutal self mutilation. Side effect from this left him still feeling alone for ages and he had tried to take his own life. 5 years on and Roger feels more attracted to women, although the want of kids could be a problem. He is still single.At what point when starting a relationship do you say, hey love, I had my nuts chopped off. One of the last blokes, he had a really high sex drive that used to drive him bonkers, literally, he exhausted his list of women, so he tried men but his sex drive was out of control and became obsessed by sex.He did first start by having an operation possibly not professional, but 5 years later his ball buddies were still there. The art of castration is to destroy the spermatic cord, this cuts of the blood supply and the body then dissolves them.He then decided that he would by a Burdizzo a farm castration tool for use on cattle and try a little diy himself. About 3 months afterwards he sent of a sample to be tested for testosterone levels, an average male should have between 241-827 Bills was 276 which is lower than a normal health male and has given him next to no sex drive, but is higher that what a castrated male should be which is between 50-80. I believe Bill is now seeking professional help.
Are there any eunuchs out there, let us know your story.
Add comment 1,January 8, 2008
Sex And Weight Loss
Have you got the post winter blues, looking at that extra tyre you seemed to have acquired over the Christmas Period?
Swim suit models have se the new standard for sexiness, often wit surgically enhanced pert breasts, tiny waists and perfectly sculpted cellulite free thighs.
Is it thanks to pop culture icons, that women think they need to be 5ft 9” and weight about 8.5stone to have a sizzling, sexy relationship.
In a poll women said they would feel sexier if they weighed less than what they are, in fact 80 % said that losing weight would improve their sex life.
Men also showed insecurities, with 70% thinking that a slimmer waistline would lead to better sex. 42% said they would only go shitless in front of their partners.
Now heres the secret girls, men don’t expect or even want their wives or girlfriends to look like super models, despite all these idealistic images and advertising. Guys, women are not looking for Brad Pitt in their beds, (well only in their dreams)
Any one can have good sex, whether you are over weight or not, scientists and researchers are now discovering that great sexual experiences stems from the mind, and not perfectly formed bodies.
Im sure a lot of us could have told them that years ago, it is not always about being physically turned on, if you are not mentally turned on it is not going to happen, and it could be a simple act to turn us off like not putting the teaspoons back in the drawer facing the right way, am I right ladies.
Having a few extra pounds can be sexy; we all want to have a little padding so the hip ones don’t stick in. Some studies that have been carried out have been at the Dukes University in North Carolina, study subjects are trying to drop and few pounds which can also help out in health reasons, the biggest improvement showed when they lost just 10% of their body weight, in addition having more of a positive body image, people who have lost weight have more energy and feel more comfortable communicating with partners regarding sexual techniques, fantasies and feelings.
Having meaningful sex can help induce the release of the hormone oxytocin, this chemical makes a person feel love and empathy, meaningful sex can also help to lower blood pressure , and tells the stomach not to send signals to the brain to eat, hence a heath sex life can lead to weight loss.
Women are not the only ones that are misguided about sex and weight loss, men worry too and are increasingly dissatisfied with their bodies, some men wish to be thinner but most just want to be more muscular, on another study 35% pf men wished they had the body of Brad Pitt in Troy. Being spurred on with images of v shaped adonises and hairless bodies, is the media now giving men a bigger complex then they have done to us women all these years.
The laws of attraction through out history show having a fit healthy body helps humans and animals find a mate and reproduce successfully.
Years ago a small waist and large breast indicated fertility, traits in men such as broad should, and dominance indicated his ability to protect and car for mother and child.
Do different cultures have different standard and concepts of what a partner should possess? Western men like the Bits and US are more attracted to thinner women, where as men in the Mediterranean consider larger women with curves extremely desirable, is this why Latin American men go wild over well endowed bottoms like Jennifer Lopez
More than often the real key to attraction lies further north in the face, this can be a strong predictor of sexiness than the body, in a recent study women thought a mans face accounted for more than half of his overall attractiveness, for men the face was an even stronger predictor of sexiness. The face reveals intelligence, personality and confidence levels, all things that increase the odds of a greater sexual relationship, much more than waist size.
The most important thing to take into consideration is the inner you, we can all get to consumed thinking of the exterior we forget to keep a reality check and look at us as a person on the inside, if you are not a nice person on the inside, no matter how beautiful you think you are, you can appear very ugly to other people on the outside. To keep yourself shining inside and out, keep up that personality, this is what makes you an individual.
Be open and honest with each other, squash any insecurities this will help lead to a better sex life as you are not frightened to tell each other what you would like to happen.
As I once heard, never give away every thing, always leave and air of mystery, something for them to look forward to and not become complacent.
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Add comment 1,January 6, 2008
Sexually Transmitted Diseases
Sexually Transmitted Diseases
By Claire Media
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The New Year is upon us, and some of you will want to start your new footloose and fancy free lifestyle by having a sexual blow out.
Great, releases endorphins, relieves stress and tension, helps to lose wait, and give you a sexually transmitted disease that could affect your whole life, outlook and emotional personality.
For a frisky moment of fondling at a four skin remember to use a one skin, forget the inappropriate timing and the embarrassment of asking if any one has got any protection, this is your life we are talking about.
Women can contract all sexual venereal diseases, and many go undetected for a long time, as they can have different symptoms to that of Men.
For example, women infected with gonorrhea may not have any symptoms, but may have a severe pelvic infection later and can pass the disease on to their sexual partners.
STIs include chlamydia, syphilis, and gonorrhoea. They can be passed on during vaginal, anal and oral sexual intercourse, as well as through genital contact with an infected partner.
Some general signs that you may have start of a problem could be itching, swelling or redness around the vagina or penis, unusual discharge from the vagina or penis, or pains in the lower abdomen. Go and see your GP
Here is a list of the major rising cases of sexually transmitted diseases that you could get as a new years present.
Chlamydia
In women, genital chlamydial infection often does not cause any symptoms. However, there may be non-specific symptoms such as cystitis, a change in the vaginal discharge, or mild lower abdominal pain. Men with chlamydia commonly experience a urethral discharge from the penis, and may have inflammation of the tube leading from the bladder to the tip of the penis (urethritis), or of the tube leading from the testes to the penis (epidymitis). This discomfort may then disappear but the infection can still be passed on to a sexual partner.
Genital warts
Many people who get the virus that leads to genital warts do not show any recognisable symptoms, and this is why the infection can go undiagnosed for a long time. However, if symptoms are present, they may include small white spots or lumps that are hidden inside the vagina or anus.
Genital herpes
Like genital warts, genital herpes is a condition that often presents no symptoms and can remain undiagnosed for long periods of time. Symptoms may show in the form of flu-like symptoms, itchiness, burning or tingling around the genitals, small, fluid-filled blisters that burst to leave sores, and pain when passing urine.
Gonorrhoea
Gonorrhoea is an infection that is found in both sexes and can affect the genitals, anus, rectum and throat. About half of all women infected with gonorrhoea, and over 90% of men experience symptoms, including a thin, watery discharge from the vagina or tip of the penis that can appear yellow or green, and pain when urinating.
Syphilis
The symptoms of syphilis usually begin with a small sore on the penis or vagina. Up to six months after the initial symptoms occur, you may experience flu-like symptoms, such as aching and shivering.
HIV
Many people do not develop any symptoms when they first become infected with HIV. Some people, however, get a flu-like illness within three to six weeks after exposure to the virus. The only way to know if you are HIV-positive is to have a test. Over time, infection with HIV weakens the immune system leading to difficulty fighting off certain infections.
Non-specific urethritis
Non-specific urethritis is an STI that affects men. It causes discomfort of the urethra (the tube that leads from the bladder to the tip of the penis, along which urine is passed), and a urethral discharge is also common.
Trichomoniasis
Trichomoniasis is an infection of the genitals that is caused by the bacterium trichomonas vaginalis (TV). The condition often has no symptoms, but symptoms may include a yellow or green discharge from the vagina with soreness. Men usually act as carriers and do not show symptoms.
Pubic lice
Symptoms of pubic lice include itchy skin, and you may notice black powder (lice droppings) in your underwear and white eggs.
Scabies
Scabies can occur anywhere on the body, but sometimes the signs are hard to see. Symptoms can appear weeks after first contact and include itching (especially at night), a rash, and tiny spots.
Thrush Symptoms of thrush include intense itching around your penis or vagina, with a thick, white discharge, and the appearance of tiny white spots around the genitals.
Many people only think about contracting a disease through normal vaginal intercourse. As they say actions speak louder than words, remember you can also contract diseases orally.
having unprotected vaginal sex, having unprotected anal sex, having unprotected oral sex, or having genital contact with an infected partner.
The risk of contracting infections such as gonorrhoea and syphilis through oral sex is much greater than the risk of contracting HIV. However, recent studies suggest that the potential risk of HIV through oral sex is higher than previously estimated.
Now there are treatments that can help should you be unfortunate enough to get one of these, many can be seen too using antibiotics, in Herpes case it remains in the body as there is no treatment that gets rid of it completely. Antiviral drugs may be used to relieve the symptoms. And methods for freezing of genital warts is used, some more persistent cases may new a few more treatments.
The only way to prevent STD’s is a life of abstinence, but that does not make you live longer, it just feels like it, or use a male condom.
So if you cant be good then be careful
Common Misspellings: sexually transmitted deseases in women, sexually transmitted deazeses in women, sexually transmitted dieases in women, sexually transmitted dieases in women
3 comments 1,December 28, 2007
