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Sex Addicts

The term sex addict is more profound than you think, it does not just state the fact that someone is addicted to sex itself, it can also show underlying signs of influences from your childhood and suppressed emotions.

Ulrika Johnson hosted a programme to set out to discover the true meaning of the word sex addict and uncovered a very surprising outcome of her own reality.

Being diagnosed as a sex addict can lead to a life of upset, misery and a long string of failed relationships.  It does not just mean addict to the urges and practises of sex, it also relates to the addiction and craving of love and the want of being loved.

Choosing to allow yourself to be with the first person that shows you any attention, just to be loved and sleeping with others in a short space of meeting them to be close to another.

Sex is not a cure for any problem; it is just a quick emotional fix, which rarely lasts more than a few days before things return to their normal standard.  You can not have a relationship based on just sex alone as this is how it will stay and you will still feel lost and lonely, turning to more sex to feel wanted and whole again, and so the circle continues.

These problems can usually stem from your up bringing, by watching how your parents treated each other maybe by belittling and undermining each other, treating women as objects, or even a broken hearted women going through a string of men after a divorce to find comfort.

Any little insecurity could be the root cause to being defined as a sex addict.  No one wants to be alone and lonely, but until you can feel happy and secure with yourself and your own life, the choices you make will more than likely be the incorrect ones as it’s not going to be your head you are thinking with, but your heart.

You do have your own mind and this should not be bogged down with desperate desires.  One task they showed Ulrika was the horse therapy, they took her into a paddock with about 5-8 horses in and asked her to choose one, as predicted she opted straight away for the first one that approached her without even looking at any other others.

This was not allowed, she then had to look at and meet each horse in turn before she made her choice.  Having done this she did eventually pick the first one that she met but this time she was happy with her choice and had made her decision clearly having looked at the other horses that were available, she then spent time with this horse grooming and making a connection with it. She had made the decision and not let the choice be made for her.

A study showed that women are most happiest for the longest, not when they have been shopping, not after they have had their hair done, this lasts for only a few hours, it is when they are confident and feel in control of their own life.

One way to try and be more in control of your sex addition or craving for love is to take a year of abstinence, sounds horrifying, especially if you have used sex as a emotional weapon for many years.

There are groups available for anyone who hides behind this physicality, it would be best to talk to you GP first.

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