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Have you got the post winter blues, looking at that extra tyre you seemed to have acquired over the Christmas Period?

Swim suit models have se the new standard for sexiness, often wit surgically enhanced pert breasts, tiny waists and perfectly sculpted cellulite free thighs.

Is it thanks to pop culture icons, that women think they need to be 5ft 9” and weight about 8.5stone to have a sizzling, sexy relationship.

In a poll women said they would feel sexier if they weighed less than what they are, in fact 80 % said that losing weight would improve their sex life.

Men also showed insecurities, with 70% thinking that a slimmer waistline would lead to better sex.  42% said they would only go shitless in front of their partners.

Now heres the secret girls, men don’t expect or even want their wives or girlfriends to look like super models, despite all these idealistic images and advertising.  Guys, women are not looking for Brad Pitt in their beds, (well only in their dreams)

Any one can have good sex, whether you are over weight or not, scientists and researchers are now discovering that great sexual experiences stems from the mind, and not perfectly formed bodies.

Im sure a lot of us could have told them that years ago, it is not always about being physically turned on, if you are not mentally turned on it is not going to happen, and it could be a simple act to turn us off like not putting the teaspoons back in the drawer facing the right way, am I right ladies.

Having a few extra pounds can be sexy; we all want to have a little padding so the hip ones don’t stick in.  Some studies that have been carried out have been at the Dukes University in North Carolina, study subjects are trying to drop and few pounds which can also help out in health reasons, the biggest improvement showed when they lost just 10% of their body weight, in addition having more of a positive body image, people who have lost weight have more energy and feel more comfortable communicating with partners regarding sexual techniques, fantasies and feelings.

Having meaningful sex can help induce the release of the hormone oxytocin, this chemical makes a person feel love and empathy, meaningful sex can also help to lower blood pressure , and tells the stomach not to send signals to the brain to eat, hence a heath sex life can lead to weight loss.

Women are not the only ones that are misguided about sex and weight loss, men worry too and are increasingly dissatisfied with their bodies, some men wish to be thinner but most just want to be more muscular, on another study 35% pf men wished they had the body of Brad Pitt in Troy.  Being spurred on with images of v shaped adonises and hairless bodies, is the media now giving men a bigger complex then they have done to us women all these years.

The laws of attraction through out history show having a fit healthy body helps humans and animals find a mate and reproduce successfully.

Years ago a small waist and large breast indicated fertility, traits in men such as broad should, and dominance indicated his ability to protect and car for mother and child.

Do different cultures have different standard and concepts of what a partner should possess?  Western men like the Bits and US are more attracted to thinner women, where as men in the Mediterranean consider larger women with curves extremely desirable, is this why Latin American men go wild over well endowed bottoms like Jennifer Lopez

More than often the real key to attraction lies further north in the face, this can be a strong predictor of sexiness than the body, in a recent study women thought a mans face accounted for more than half of his overall attractiveness, for men the face was an even stronger predictor of sexiness.  The face reveals intelligence, personality and confidence levels, all things that increase the odds of a greater sexual relationship, much more than waist size.

The most important thing to take into consideration is the inner you, we can all get to consumed thinking of the exterior we forget to keep a reality check and look at us as a person on the inside, if you are not a nice person on the inside, no matter how beautiful you think you are, you can appear very ugly to other people on the outside. To keep yourself shining inside and out, keep up that personality, this is what makes you an individual.

Be open and honest with each other, squash any insecurities this will help lead to a better sex life as you are not frightened to tell each other what you would like to happen.

As I once heard, never give away every thing, always leave and air of mystery, something for them to look forward to and not become complacent.

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